Of course, when Hollywood stars or politicians have extramarital affairs, the whole world gasps. But if we peek into human biology, anthropology and sociology, the monogamous human appears to be non-existent.
Fact: Humans are mammals, and if we look to the mammalian world, just 3 to 5% of the about 5,000 species of mammals form lifelong, monogamous bonds.
Some scientists view both social and sexual monogamy in humans as a societal structure rather than a natural state. So if being monogamous is not a natural human state then why does society chastise us for mingling in our neighbours sheets? We have been taught that to stray from our spouse is considered to be ‘bad, bad, bad!’ But most of us have done so at least once in our life, or at least had the urge to do so. Wouldn’t that mean that the majority of humans are ‘bad’? Or maybe it’s only those of us that get caught that are ‘bad’. What a contradiction; societal expectation vs. natural instinct…gee wonder who wins this tug’o’war, duah. Why do we as a society make things so difficult for ourselves? Instinct always triumphs in the end. My philosophy is to just go with the flow and follow your natural instincts because human nature is neither ‘good’ nor ‘bad’, it just is.